There is no ‘I can’t’, only ‘I won’t’

There is no shame in not being able to do something because we haven’t learned how to yet. We all have different strokes, different perspectives, different things we enjoy, and our skills reflect our diversity as human beings. Health conditions exempt (and there are people with health conditions who are exempt from the exemption!), there is really never anything we can’t do. If something is out of our reach, it’s simply because we’re not interested in pursuing it strongly enough.

Take painting. Most people we know of will say “I could never do this!” when viewing a beautiful work of art. I wholeheartedly disagree. There is no ‘natural born talent or gift’, there is only an interest in painting that develops into the desire to do it. And then you do it. Those who create masterpieces went through a grueling process of trying to paint, making mistakes, learning from these mistakes and trying again, over and over until they felt exhausted, until they were drained, and they kept on going no matter how hard it got because they were passionate about it and really wanted to achieve their goals. They went through all the ugly phases that come with learning how to create beautiful paintings. They got disappointed in their efforts, but instead of calling it quits, they tried again. And again. And again. Until one day they were finally able to create something that pleased them. And they never stop trying to get better, always eager to learn new things, always eager to push beyond their comfort zones and explore the world in ways they never thought possible before.

When I hear someone complain about “I wish I could do that but I’m just not lucky enough to be creative”, I get angry. You want the pay-off without putting in effort? That’s never happening. Stop blaming ‘a lack of creativity’, stop wallowing in self-pity, and either get off your ass and put in the effort or stop complaining for attention. There is no such thing as lack of creativity. You’re not born with it, you train yourself. You grow up in school with countless of crafting classes. You have the internet at your disposal, the biggest, most universally accessible knowledgebase in all of human history and you sit there complaining you can’t do something. There are millions of resources online, available and for free, to draw your inspiration from. You want to create original characters? Here you go.

I’m not lucky for the skills I have. I worked my butt off for every single one of them. I didn’t just know how to knit a sweater because I sat there going “I wish I could do that, I guess I just don’t have the talent for it”. I spent nearly 3 years knitting almost every day, spending countless upon countless hours researching how to get the desired fabric, learning how to read patterns, learning how to adjust patterns, putting months into projects only to start all over again because I made a mistake.

This process is the same for every skill out there. You go through a lot of shit, frustrations, research, practice and need a consistent level of passion, motivation and discipline to get good at anything – you’ve got to be willing to put up with all the bad stuff that comes with it. It is not handed to you on a silver platter pain free. I’ve never played a guitar in my life, and I don’t even know if I’m musically inclined for instruments. I could play the guitar if I really applied myself, but you know what? I probably never will. I’m not interested in playing the guitar and going through the grueling process that will lead to the reward of being good at playing the guitar. I’m not motivated, I’m not passionate about it, and therefore I don’t have the discipline to sit through it.

And that’s okay.

What’s not okay is to complain about not being able to play the guitar when I’m not willing to practice 2-4 hours a day, get a teacher, learn how to read music sheets and build up callouses on my initially blistered and bleeding fingertips.

RP Repository’s Anniversary

April 24th 2015 is more Epic than ever. The Roleplay Repository is celebrating its fifth anniversary!!

RPR is a site for everyone who enjoys to roleplay, or just needs a repository for character profiles, or just wants to hang out with tons of amazing people. It’s heralded as one of the friendliest and welcoming communities on the internet and it’s no wonder that everyone feels at home right off the bat.

The site is run by the most wonderful Kim, aided by her fantastic moderators who are there in everyone’s time of need. I have a lot of geeky friends who may not be a member yet. Why don’t you come check us out while we celebrate for a whole week, and perhaps you want to stick around? 🙂

http://www.rprepository.com/

Jumbled update

“Hong kong has been cancelled. I’ll let you know as soon as I find when / where our first port visit will be.”

I think I might cry.

This whole eating thing is more difficult than I thought. I don’t have an eating disorder, but I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum as far as emotional eater goes (is ’emotional faster’ a thing?). When I’m upset or depressed, I don’t eat. My appetite just vanishes and I don’t feel like eating anything, not even delicious sweet or fatty things that aren’t good for me that I usually do enjoy.

No, it’s not fun or a good thing, so I hope that  nobody will comment “Omg I wish that happened to me”. I will rub your face on a cheese grater and wash it with lemon juice.

I thought that when my boyfriend left, I’d spend all my time playing The Sims so I could distract myself with pretending he’s still close and doing things with me. Instead I just find myself playing Skyrim endlessly with my Amazon (Nord) lady who married a chick and hates men, so she refuses to be nice to guys or even take male followers (it’s a character, not my views, I like to roleplay). It’s proving to be entertaining so far.

Since last week I’ve begun picking up work again for my sister-like-friend-who’s-also-my-client (I can say this is the best work relationship I’ve ever had). There have been many angry rants about ridiculous clients with more ridiculous demands that are fit to go straight to Clients From Hell. There’s also a whole lot of fun stuff such as writing articles and making pretty graphics. It feels good to be back to work.

One of my cats has a hot spot on her back leg that she manages to get to despite wearing a cone. My boyfriend gave me money for a vet visit but so far I’ve been unable to get an appointment made, so I’m holding on to that for the time being. Stupid ultra-flexible cat.

I don’t want to do dishes.